As I Grow Old
Poet: Arnold West
God, keep my heart attuned to laughter
when youth is done;
when all the days are gray days, coming after
The warmth, the sun.
God keep me then from bitterness, from
When life seems cold;
God keep me always loving and believing
As I grow old.
Thank You GOD for another Year!!
Do you suffer from phone anxiety?!
Start by trying to Figure out what’s causing the fear of talking on the phone: Are you concerned about saying something embarrassing? Are you fearing rejection? What are your thoughts that are going through your head before making a phone call. What kinds of things are you telling yourself.
The Most important factor is getting to the root of the exact fear about making phone calls. Always Aiming for positive self-talk is a must, Afterwards try to understand what’s driving your fear, try to change what you’re telling yourself about talking on the phone. Example: Think about times when you have made phone calls & didn’t say anything embarrassing or negative. Now, self-talk by saying something like, “I have made several successful phone calls without embarrassing myself. I am capable of having a successful phone conversation.”
Chronic fears of making telephone calls may be an indicator of a deeper issues, such as social anxiety. A great tip, Try seeing an experienced anxiety therapist, to identify any issues to develop some skills to overcome it. There are treatments for social anxiety. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) techniques, exposure therapy, & social skills training, these type of techniques may be a great help for you to identify anxious thought patterns.
Try to face your fears. Try to develop strategies for managing social situations. Managing your phone calls daily, try to decide when you want to make your calls. Spread out your calls or make them all in one day, whatever works best for you. Limit yourself to one or two calls per day can help with pressure of making phone calls. Determine the best time of day for your phone calls & only try to make phone calls when you feel at your best, feeling confident makes a difference. Consider the purpose of your call, prepare so that you’re able to accomplish the goal. If you need to make a call to find out information, make a list of questions. If you need to communicate important info to a friend, coworker, family member, write down what you need to communicate.
Try screening calls. Answer calls from people in your contact list, or just allow calls to go to voicemail, then you can think exactly how you want to respond without the pressure.
Remember to always toTake a deep breath & Relax.
It’s okay to say no, there are many reasons why we should say no sometimes, and there are just as many reasons why we don’t – and suffer for not doing. Please try to Understand that “no” isn’t cruel. By itself, saying no isn’t rude, mean, or uncaring.
When saying No, Excuse yourself plainly. The most basic way of saying no without ruining anyone else’s day is to clearly and plainly say “no,” followed by a brief, reason why you said no. Honestly there’s no need to lie or make up an excuse if you don’t feel yours is good enough – remember, everyone has felt the same way you do when expressing yourself to say no. If you just don’t feel like granting a request, that’s all the excuse you need. No specific, concrete, or logical reason is required.
Handle problem requests with bluntness. Saying “No”Be firm, not defensive, be polite. This gives the signal that you are sympathetic, but will not easily change your mind if pressured.
Always Be clear. If you decide to tell the person you’ll get back to them, be matter-of-fact and not too promising. If you lead people to believe you’ll likely say “yes” later, they’ll be more disappointed with a later “no.
Saying No, No excuses are necessary. If asked for an explanation, remember that you really don’t owe anyone one. “It doesn’t fit with my schedule,” is perfectly acceptable, Or If you don’t want to do it, don’t do it. And if your friends, Family, etc, force you to do things you are not comfortable with, question your friendship, situation, etc.
Be Free. Set boundaries. Love yourself.
Have a lovely Virgo Season~
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Lentils good for B vitamins, which are linked to reducing irritability and depression since they also contribute to the production of serotonin.
Bananas affect tryptophan.
Yogurt is high in probiotic bacteria, means it helps break down nutrients for absorption into the body. Including yogurt in your diet can help with your body’s intake of nutrients from other foods.
Liver is best known for its high content of vitamin B12, protein, iron (which is thought to play a role in the production of serotonin and dopamine), potassium, and many other vitamins and nutrients.
Berries are Rich in vitamin C, berries of all sorts also offer antioxidants, fiber, potassium and digestive enzymes.
Spinach, Kale, Collard Greens, and other dark green vegetables, Spinach in particular also has iron, calcium, potassium, and omega 3s among others.
Sweet Potatoes are good food for mood-boosting is the antioxidant beta-carotene which protects the body’s cells and has also been linked to improving brain function.
Eggs good for vitamin D, omega 3s, and that mood-linked B12 vitamin.
Brazil Nuts good for vitamin E, magnesium, selenium, and provides tryptophan.
TIPS TO DO
Relaxing Shower, Hot water. Contact a loved one , phone call, online conversation or even email to someone you love. Deep breathing exercise, breath for in 5 seconds, exhale for another 5 seconds, repeat as needed. Listen to Brainwave audios, traditional meditations for stress relief , special frequencies. Dance for few, minutes of dancing can make you feel happy, partly due to the release of endorphins, also to flood positive energy neurotransmitters in your body listening to your favorite tunes. Look for inspiring photographs, movies, artwork, books, quotes etc. Recite to yourself or out loud “mood boosting affirmations” or even writing them down into a journal etc. Getting rid of clutter, cleaning up your living & work space, Lighting incense or scented candles. Last, but not least, try Hugs & kisses, whether a friend, partner, family member, pet, Your body will respond by releasing “love” hormones like oxytocin. You’ll feel calm, safe, content, & happier.