ZENAGALLERY BLACK TIE B-DAY

hotelhenry2

Private Black Tie  Intimate Birthday Celebration Hotel Henry Resort

Make a Wish. Blow out the Candles. One year older. You’re INVITED…

What Happens at my VIRGO Birthday Party, Stays at my VIRGO Birthday Party!

“REPONDEZ S’IL VOUS PLAIT, RSVP….Thank You for Coming!

See you All Soon!!

Cheers!!!  Ms. Zena XOXOXO

 

Advertisements

Why are people mean to nice people?!

Why are people mean to nice people?  Short answer,  They’re hurt! Long answer, They’re really hurt!  Some point, somebody, their parents, their lovers, a close one, did them dirty & hurt them, they were crushed & they’re still afraid the pain will never stop, or that it will happen again. Some people you can be nice and sincere too,  some people who may perceive you as a possible threat, you will have to deal with them accordingly. Basically, you will have to keep them within arm’s length but not within your personal space. People who are bad and mean to the nice ones, are those who are generally weak and try to prove they’re not by displaying a hostile attitude. Sometimes they do it because they’re resentful for being treated that way at some point of their lives. The fact is that we’ve all been hurt, and we’re all wounded, but not all of us are mean. We have both the capacity and the obligation to do better. How people treat other people is a  reflection of how they may truly feel about themselves.

By nature, I am a happy, optimistic, idealistic person. I have always been one to look on the bright side and see the good in people. My thoughts about  life is that the world is full of brightness, love, and possibilities to seize. Recently, though, my thoughts began to fade in the face of a mild depression. I began to cry a lot and retreat into myself rather than being social and opening up, which only furthered the problem. I felt alone, miserable, and, try as I might, I could not regain that feeling of the world being beautiful.
I felt like something had crawled into my mind and turned all the positive switches off and the negative ones on. I felt hopeless, like it was more of a disease than a feeling.
Before the depression, I was a kind, gentle, and compassionate person. Sometimes I was even too gentle, afraid to bring up anything that might offend someone else or damage our relationship.
I didn’t understand how other people could be mean, rude, or offensive toward strangers or friends. I took it personally when people were rude with me, believing they were truly out to get me for something I’d done. When someone is rude for no reason, especially a stranger, it’s rarely a personal assault, even if you accidentally did something to irritate them. People aren’t mean for the sport of it, or because they are against you; people are mean to cope. I felt unlovable, undesirable, antisocial, and I needed a way to cope with these feelings by giving myself an alter ego that deserved to be disliked for reasons I could understand. When you find that people are being rude to you in your everyday life, they are really being mean to themselves. They have likely convinced themselves that they are unworthy of love, and that is the biggest tragedy of all. You can simply recognize that the person being rude is struggling with their own problems, and needs a way to cope with them. You cannot control the actions and behaviors of others, only your personal reactions to them. If you yourself are the one who has been unkind, it is time for self-reflection.

Why do you attack people?

What are you trying to protect yourself from?

Should I change my outlook, so I pushed myself to see the good in myself and the reasons why I’m likable; as a result, I began to see the good in others again too. It’s not an easy process, and for many, it requires therapy and months of time. However, you can begin your journey back to kindness by being kinder to yourself. Listen closely to your destructive, self-critical thoughts.

Are they based in reality, or are you fabricating them?

If you criticize yourself because you feel guilty about things you did in the past, work on nurturing self-forgiveness, just as you’d forgive a loved one for those same mistakes.
If you criticize yourself because you were raised to believe you were a bad person, recognize this isn’t true, and know that you can choose to heal and challenge this belief as an adult. Try to look at yourself from an outside perspective and remind yourself of all the unique and beautiful qualities you possess and have the ability to share with the world. With enough time and effort, you will begin to see the pattern in your unkind behavior and its link to your own anger at yourself. The most important thing to remember, whether you are receiving or giving unkindness, is that you are inherently good, too, and deserve to be loved. Bless.

healme

 

As Christians We Are like Jars of Clay

https://wp.me/p17ihl-2WE

LOVE

The Pain of LOVE…will never Stop… It is inevitable that sometimes love hurts…. It really hurts to love someone and not be loved in return but what is the most painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let the person know how you feel. Love is the most beautiful of dreams and the worst of nightmares. Love is painful, because it […]

via The Pleasure of LOVE lasts only for a moment, yet the Pain of LOVE lasts for a lifetime… — Success Inspirers World

Agape is Blood Love

Our default position as believers faced with challenges is to believe that God is disappointed and frustrated. That He is simply tolerating us. But Paul says no; before the foundations of the world was laid, God already made a plan to adopt us and make us holy and blameless. Ephesians 1:4-6 – Even before he […]

via Agape is blood-love — Pastor Ran

2018

On a starry night let us lift up the veil that covers the new year that awaits us, face it with courage and find the strength that lies within ourselves to deal with everything what may come our way. _______________ I wish you and your loved ones a Happy Holiday Season and a peaceful and healthy New […]

via Course. — lemanshots – Fine Pictures and Digital Art

Speak Your Life into Living Again?!

Scriptures

Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.  Proverbs 18:21

Whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.. Phil 4:8

And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith. Matt 21:22

So shall my word be that goes out from my mouth; it shall not return to me empty, but it shall accomplish that which I purpose, and shall succeed in the thing for which I sent it. Isaiah 55:11

Truly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and thrown into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says will come to pass, it will be done for him. Mark 11:23

But he answered, “It is written, “‘Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.’” Matt 4:4

BONUS: For “Whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit; 1 Peter 3:10

The thing is, God gives us rules to live by and clear instructions on how to have a fulfilled life. So many times we (I’ve done it too) pick & choose what we want to follow out of the bible. We pick the scripture that benefits us at the time we need it the most.

I believe we all want a good life, whatever good means to you. Unfortunately, our words don’t reflect that. If words have power, that means everything you say is shaping your life. You may not feel it or see it the minute you speak it, but those words are planting seeds.

Just look back on your life or even where you are now. Do you remember speaking certain things about what you want or don’t want to happen and now you are living it?

Because words have power, we clearly have to be intentional with what we speak.

Tip: Only focus on the things you want/desire. Give no energy to the things you do not want.  Watch how things start to shift.

SPEAK YOUR LIFE INTO LIVING THE LIFE YOU DESIRE.

YES