We can try Healing Emotional Pain by letting go of rejection, rejection activates the same pathways in your brain as physical pain, which is a reason why it hurts. If we avoid ruminating, we can start turning failure Into Something Positive. Especially if We can make sure our Guilt remains as useful Emotions. If you have low self esteem be sure to use Self-Affirmations A lot. Healing Emotional Pain takes time. Rejection plays with your need to belong, it is distressing, it interferes with your ability to think, memories and making decisions. The sooner you let go of painful rejections, the better off your mind will be. Ruminate, or brood, over past hurts, the memories you replay in your mind become increasingly distressing and cause Anger, without providing any new insights.
In other words, while reflecting on a painful event, it actually can help you to reach an understanding or closure about it. Ruminating simply increases your stress levels, and can actually be addictive, ruminating on stressful incidents can also increase your levels of C-reactive protein, a marker of inflammation in the body linking to diseases.
Turn Failure Into Positive. Don’t Allow yourself to feel helpless after a failure, or blame it on your lack of ability or bad luck, it’s likely to lower your self-esteem. Blaming a failure on specific factors within your control, such as planning and execution, is likely to be less damaging. What’s even better is, focusing on ways you can improve, Work on being better Informed or Prepared so you can succeed next time.
Use Guilt as a Useful Emotion, Guilt can be beneficial, it can stop you from doing something that may harm another person. Guilt that lingers or is excessive, can impair your ability to focus & hinder you from enjoying Life.
If you still feel guilty after apologizing for a wrongdoing, be sure you have expressed empathy toward them and conveyed that you understand how your actions impacted them. This will lead to authentic forgiveness, relief of guilty feelings.
Self Positive affirmations are excellent tools for emotional health, if they fall outside the boundaries of your beliefs, they may be ineffective. This may be the case for people with low self-esteem, for whom self-affirmations may be more useful. Self-affirmations, such as “I have a great work ethic, I am a Hard worker,” can help your positive qualities you believe you have. Make a list of your Best Qualities. Healing emotional/rejection Pain. May Peace be with you.
: careful thought about your own behavior and beliefs
Do you want a secret path to a successful life?
However, the easiest and most rewarding path to success is looking within. Discovering what you have to offer to the world that nobody else can. Finding your own unique talents and sharing them in a meaningful way, the importance of finding your true talents.
Why you need to find your talents and strengths
Most people never find their natural talents and strengths – either because they do not believe they have any or because they underestimate their importance. If you want to be successful, discovering your uniqueness, it’s a necessity.
Two examples show you why:
Your biggest room for growth lies within your talents
In today’s society is that, the key to success is fixing your weakness. People tend to think that working on what you are not good at is the fastest way to grow and develop. That’s far from the truth. Of course, you can get better at anything. Working on your weakness can help you go from bad to mediocre. But you will never be able to achieve true excellence without an underlying talent.
The first step to embrace your uniqueness is being aware that you are special. You are like nobody else in this world. Nobody else has had the same experiences as you. No one has exactly the same characteristics and shares the same values. Nobody has learned all the various skills you learned. Discovering your talents and strengths means becoming more aware of who you really are. Because only when you know, what makes you so unique, you can fully embrace and make use of it.
what exactly is a talent?
A talent is simply a strong characteristic that you have. It’s something you naturally do, think, or feel and that can be used in a beneficial way. It is nothing you acquired in school, that was taught to you at university. A talent is just a natural pattern of thought, feeling, or behavior.
Psychologists say that 90% of what you think every day is repetitive*. Meaning most of what you think today, you already thought yesterday, and 90% of these thoughts you also thought the day before … Not only are your thoughts the results of underlying patterns but also your behavior and feelings. Finding your talents is simply about discovering these most prominent patterns within you and then using it to your advantage.
Identifying your unique talents, set yourself up for success and capitalize on the way you are, identify your unique characteristics. This is a process that takes quite some time but that is definitely worth doing!
First Find what makes you feel strong. Keep track of how you spend the next few days: What are you doing, feeling or thinking about daily? Write down everything that energizes you and makes you feel strong. It could be a particular physical activity such as meeting up and going dancing with a friend or a mental activity such as finding a solution to a difficult problem. Then when you’ve found a few things you repeatedly do and love, dig deeper and see what part of that particular activity made you feel good.
Example, one of my patterns is that I love learning, sharing my ideas with you. That statement in itself is not quite true: I don’t like learning about everything. Give me books about personal development and I am occupied for hours feeling energized and in flow. Give me almost anything else and I am bored to hell.
I like sharing what I learn but if you make me talk about it in front of a crowd, I will not do it. However, sit down with me alone and I will happily talk with you for hours. These are distinct differences that are vital to know in order to make the most of my talent.
Look out for your own patterns: what are you always doing or thinking about? What can you just not help doing, thinking or feeling? Even if someone asks you not to? Often these are things that others can find quite annoying about you .Discover what you spend your money on. Your core values are closely linked with what you spend your money and time on. Take note of what you spend your money on and look closer at what this can tell you about yourself. Example, I spend my money on books,magazines, self-help conferences. The types of magazines I buy show me what I am passionate about mainly personal development & entrepreneurship. But what’s behind it is my desire to learn and grow. That is a strong natural characteristic of mine, a talent that drives everything I do, how I think and how I spend my time. If you like spending money on going out with friends, is it that you like bringing people together?
Is it that you like getting attention and expressing yourself? Or maybe is it because you value deepening your pre-existing friendships? Why do you do what you do? What is behind it? The key is to keep digging deeper in order to get to the core essence of your talent patterns. Most people, including myself in the past, make the terrible mistake of being too fast and not taking enough time to truly discover themselves.
Identifying what makes you truly unique and what drives you, is not a 1-minute exercise. Its a everyday battle with yourself about who you are and who you want to be.
Asking others?! Find out what others value most about you. What personal characteristics would describe you best? Ask your friends, partner and family members what they love most about your personality. This will not just be valuable for your self-confidence, it will also show you what you are likely to dismiss about yourself. You might be surprised by what you find out. Often, how you see yourself is very different to how others see you.
The problem with talents and strengths is that they are so normal to you that you tend to dismiss them. You are so used to them that you take them for granted and don’t realize that they exist and that they are your biggest asset.
Try Using personality tests, Another good way to discover your unique talents is using a personality test. One that I can recommend is the Clifton Strength Finder which determines your top five dominant patterns. It gives you a detailed explanation of them and actionable advice about how to put them to use. The test has really opened my eyes and helped me understand my talents and myself a little better. You can buy the test as part of the book Now, Discover Your Strengths or get it on its own.
However, don’t just use the test alone and do nothing with it. The result alone will have no impact on you or your strength development unless you use the answers as a starting point to get to know yourself better. The best would be going through the steps in the order described above. Start with self-analysis, then see if others confirm your view about yourself and lastly you can also see what personality tests reveal about you. From my experiences, this process will prove to be the most valuable one for finding your unique talents and strengths. Good Luck !! You are Worth It..
Long ago, I erected an idol in my mind of the Christian Woman. The Christian Woman found the time to blow-dry her hair before church. She and her childhood sweetheart and their well behaved brood of children arrived each Sunday with their clothes right side in and their shoes on the right feet. She taught Sunday school and sipped tea at ladies’ functions. She found the time to cart casseroles to potlucks, kiddos to soccer practice, and donations to the food-bank in her mini-van.
Are you living the life you want? Do you make time for yourself? Do you handle yourself with care? Do you express yourself?
Life is what God gave you for free. Style & Expressing who you are is what you do with it. Are you ready for this? Defining your Inner Being Self for Yourself. Are you going to take a front-row seat in your own life? Become who you want to be! Take the time for self regularly, try detox mentally?! How often do you reward yourself? Have you fully let go of painful past experiences that may hinder your growth? What are you doing to stop the wear and tear on your inner self? The answers to these questions can be extremely tough, but its okay to pull yourself to the side for a much needed break on you emotional well being. Take all the time you need. Self seduction in full effect. Take the necessary time for self impact on your emotional state and physical health as well. Honor yourself.
DO NOT LET ADVERSITY STUMP YOU….STAND FIRM!!!! SOLID FOUNDATION. DO NOT GIVE IN, GIVE UP, OR GIVE OUT!
THE TRUE MEANING OF ENDURANCE , PREPARATION MEETS OPPORTUNITY, ALLOW YOURSELF TO WITHSTAND WHATEVER COMES YOUR WAY.