Keeping the Holidays Happy?! Tips!

“It’s the most wonderful time of the year….” That song just keeps going through my head as I type this. For me, this IS the most wonderful time of the year. I love all the bright lights, good food, and the way that for the most part, people just seem to be a little nicer […]

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Speak Your Life into Living Again?!

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Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.  Proverbs 18:21

Whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.. Phil 4:8

And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith. Matt 21:22

So shall my word be that goes out from my mouth; it shall not return to me empty, but it shall accomplish that which I purpose, and shall succeed in the thing for which I sent it. Isaiah 55:11

Truly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and thrown into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says will come to pass, it will be done for him. Mark 11:23

But he answered, “It is written, “‘Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.’” Matt 4:4

BONUS: For “Whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit; 1 Peter 3:10

The thing is, God gives us rules to live by and clear instructions on how to have a fulfilled life. So many times we (I’ve done it too) pick & choose what we want to follow out of the bible. We pick the scripture that benefits us at the time we need it the most.

I believe we all want a good life, whatever good means to you. Unfortunately, our words don’t reflect that. If words have power, that means everything you say is shaping your life. You may not feel it or see it the minute you speak it, but those words are planting seeds.

Just look back on your life or even where you are now. Do you remember speaking certain things about what you want or don’t want to happen and now you are living it?

Because words have power, we clearly have to be intentional with what we speak.

Tip: Only focus on the things you want/desire. Give no energy to the things you do not want.  Watch how things start to shift.

SPEAK YOUR LIFE INTO LIVING THE LIFE YOU DESIRE.

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Holiday Shopping This Year?! Tips!

Holiday Shopping?! Quick Tips on Saving this Year Friendly Reminders

Start saving Early. There’s no better time than the present to start saving money for the holidays. No matter when you start saving, think about opening a holiday savings account that you can deposit money into all year. 

Set a realistic budget. Figure out exactly how much money you have to spend. And don’t forget to factor in wrapping paper, holiday cards and postage. The little extras that are often forgotten are just the things that can throw your entire budget off track if you’re not careful.

Make your holiday shopping list. After your budget has been set and you’ve started saving, it’s a good idea to create a list of everyone you intend to buy for. Don’t forget to include items like hostess gifts for parties you’ll attend, a gift for your boss and that family gift exchange you’re included in year after year. It also may be smart to purchase a few small gifts for surprise visitors or a last-minute party. Once you’ve made your list, keep it handy so you can refer to it often. The list will help you stay on track and keep you from forgetting anyone. 

Do your homework. There’s nothing worse than buying a gift at full price, only to see that another retailer is selling it cheaper. Before you hit the stores, do your homework and compare prices for the gifts you know you want to buy. From newspaper ads to online shopping that offers free shipping and other holiday deals, do your research and create a “plan of attack” to help your money stretch.

Count down to the holidays. There’s no better motivation to get your holiday shopping done on time than to make a countdown to the holidays and put it somewhere you can see it. That way you’ll always know exactly how long you have to finish shopping and get gifts wrapped and sent, if needed.

Get a head start. It’s much easier to make smart choices with your money when you’re not waiting until the last minute to shop. Procrastinating only promotes rushed shopping, overspending and buyer’s remorse as the guilt of going over budget sets in. So, get a head start and begin your holiday shopping early enough to take your time and make smart choices.

Be thoughtful. When in doubt about a gift to give, get creative and be thoughtful. Think about your most cherished gifts throughout the years. They’re probably some of the most thoughtful gifts you’ve received. For instance, a scrapbook of shared memories or an appreciation book may take a little more effort or time, but they’re certainly thoughtful and creative. And they’re often less expensive, too.

If all else fails, give a gift card. If you’ve had trouble finding the perfect gift or you simply run out of time, give the gift that everyone’s sure to enjoy. A gift card is the ideal gift for anyone on your holiday shopping list. 

Make a payoff plan. If you were able to save some money throughout the year to help lighten the financial burden when the holidays roll around, great. If not, make a plan to pay off the money you’ve spent once the new year arrives. It’s important that you set a financial strategy that works for you and your budget.

Ready, set, shop. After you’ve made your list, set your budget and done your homework, you’re ready to shop until you drop. It’s a great feeling to hit up the stores you need and start checking items off your list. And remember, the holidays are a great time to take advantage of price-match guarantees, free shipping and other end-of-year deals. 

These holiday shopping and savings tips are sure to help you slow down and enjoy the holidays for what they’re meant to be – a special time to spend with your loved ones. Avoid holiday hassle by finding a bank that offers the flexibility you need to help keep all of your finances in order - during the holidays and the rest of the year.

Happy Holiday Shopping!!!

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Self Cleansing, Get back your Self-power?! Try Today!

Try Self Cleansing Once a week, A month, or anytime suitable to gain your self power and positive energy in your life to a daily basis. Self Rituals are a symbolic way to help you release old hurts and prepare for new goals. Everyone encounters negativity in life, including gossip, turmoil at work, breakups and other losses. They can block you spiritually if you allow them to build and gather power. By performing a spiritual cleansing, you can release these negatives and reclaim your power. A cleansing can act as the starting point for moving in a healthier direction.

Step 1. Take a bath to prepare yourself physically for the spiritual cleansing. Try using bath salts in the water, as salt is traditionally considered to be a cleansing element. As you relax in the hot water, meditate on the specific areas of your life that need cleansing.

Step 2. Write down the aspects of your life that you wish to cleanse. Focus on items that contribute to negativity and keep you stuck. Include everything that needs to be released to clear your spirit.

Step 3. Meditate on the list of negatives you just created. Envision the negativity in your life dissolving, turning to dust and blowing away on the wind. If you have religious beliefs, you can pray to your deity or higher power during this process, asking for help with your cleansing. Otherwise, simply repeat a mantra such as, “I release all that is negative in my life. I release its power over me. I reclaim the power of my spirit.”

Step 4. Burn the list. You can ignite it with a candle, match or lighter, but do it in a safe place where there is no danger of starting a fire. The best spot is over a sink or bathtub. Put a plate in the bottom of the sink or tub to catch any ashes, which you can scatter outside.

Step 5. Say aloud & firm with belief “I am purified by the flame. My spirit is cleansed and freed.” as the paper burns. As you do this, imagine everything negative rising up from your spirit and vaporizing.

Things you need. Bath salts, white Candle, matches or lighter, Bowl or vase (optional)

Become Less Stress at Work: Tips

Manage Stress

Track your stress. Keep a journal for a week or two to identify which situations create the most stress and how you respond to the them. Track your stress. Keep a journal for a week or two to identify which situations create the most stress and how you respond to them. …Develop healthy responses. …Establish boundaries. ..Take time to recharge. …Learn how to relax. …Talk to your supervisor, Get some support.

Feel Better Tips to Take care of yourself. Eat healthy, well-balanced meals. Talk to others. Share your problems and how you are feeling and coping with a parent, friend, counselor, doctor, or pastor. Avoid drugs and alcohol. Drugs and alcohol may seem to help with the stress. Take a break.

If you regularly make time for fun and relaxation, you’ll be in a better place to handle life’s stress. Set aside leisure time. Do something you enjoy every day. Keep your sense of humor. Don’t over-commit yourself. Prioritize tasks.Break projects into small steps.Delegate responsibility.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by a stressful situation, try taking a break and listening to relaxing music, calm music has a positive effect on the brain and body, can lower blood pressure, and reduce cortisol, a hormone linked to stress. The vitamin B-complex refers to all of the known essential water-soluble vitamins except for vitamin C: thiamine (B1), riboflavin (B2), niacin (B3), pantothenic acid (B5), pyridoxine (B6), biotin, folic acid, and the cobalamins (B12). B vitamins are important for cell metabolism.

Get spiritual. Regardless of what “spirituality” means to you, one thing is certain: When we are overworked and chronically stressed, we can forget about our place in the bigger picture. Connecting with your spiritual roots through prayer, meditation, chanting or other rituals is an excellent way to get perspective on what’s stressing you and relieve that pressure. Another simple tip? Pull out a world map and reflect on how big the earth is, and where you fit in.

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Discover your Natural Talent Today!

Do you want a secret path to a successful life?
However, the easiest and most rewarding path to success is looking within. Discovering what you have to offer to the world that nobody else can. Finding your own unique talents and sharing them in a meaningful way, the importance of finding your true talents.
Why you need to find your talents and strengths
Most people never find their natural talents and strengths – either because they do not believe they have any or because they underestimate their importance. If you want to be successful, discovering your uniqueness, it’s a necessity.

Two examples show you why:
Your biggest room for growth lies within your talents
In today’s society is that, the key to success is fixing your weakness. People tend to think that working on what you are not good at is the fastest way to grow and develop. That’s far from the truth. Of course, you can get better at anything. Working on your weakness can help you go from bad to mediocre. But you will never be able to achieve true excellence without an underlying talent.

The first step to embrace your uniqueness is being aware that you are special. You are like nobody else in this world. Nobody else has had the same experiences as you. No one has exactly the same characteristics and shares the same values. Nobody has learned all the various skills you learned. Discovering your talents and strengths means becoming more aware of who you really are. Because only when you know, what makes you so unique, you can fully embrace and make use of it.

what exactly is a talent?
A talent is simply a strong characteristic that you have. It’s something you naturally do, think, or feel and that can be used in a beneficial way. It is nothing you acquired in school, that was taught to you at university. A talent is just a natural pattern of thought, feeling, or behavior.

Psychologists say that 90% of what you think every day is repetitive*. Meaning most of what you think today, you already thought yesterday, and 90% of these thoughts you also thought the day before … Not only are your thoughts the results of underlying patterns but also your behavior and feelings. Finding your talents is simply about discovering these most prominent patterns within you and then using it to your advantage.
Identifying your unique talents, set yourself up for success and capitalize on the way you are,  identify your unique characteristics. This is a process that takes quite some time but that is definitely worth doing!

First Find what makes you feel strong. Keep track of how you spend the next few days: What are you doing, feeling or thinking about daily? Write down everything that energizes you and makes you feel strong. It could be a particular physical activity such as meeting up and going dancing with a friend or a mental activity such as finding a solution to a difficult problem. Then when you’ve  found a few things you repeatedly do and love, dig deeper and see what part of that particular activity made you feel good.

Example, one of my patterns is that I love learning, sharing my ideas with you. That statement in itself is not quite true: I don’t like learning about everything. Give me books about personal development and I am occupied for hours feeling energized and in flow. Give me almost anything else and I am bored to hell.

I like sharing what I learn but if you make me talk about it in front of a crowd, I will not do it. However, sit down with me alone and I will happily talk with you for hours. These are distinct differences that are vital to know in order to make the most of my talent.

Look out for your own patterns: what are you always doing or thinking about? What can you just not help doing, thinking or feeling? Even if someone asks you not to? Often these are things that others can find quite annoying about you .Discover what you spend your money on. Your core values are closely linked with what you spend your money and time on. Take note of what you spend your money on and look closer at what this can tell you about yourself. Example, I spend my money on books,magazines, self-help conferences. The types of magazines I buy show me what I am passionate about mainly personal development & entrepreneurship. But what’s behind it is my desire to learn and grow. That is a strong natural characteristic of mine, a talent that drives everything I do, how I think and how I spend my time. If you like spending money on going out with friends, is it that you like bringing people together?

Is it that you like getting attention and expressing yourself? Or maybe is it because you value deepening your pre-existing friendships? Why do you do what you do? What is behind it? The key is to keep digging deeper in order to get to the core essence of your talent patterns. Most people, including myself in the past, make the terrible mistake of being too fast and not taking enough time to truly discover themselves.

Identifying what makes you truly unique and what drives you,  is not a 1-minute exercise. Its a everyday battle with yourself about who you are and who you want to be.
Asking others?!   Find out what others value most about you. What personal characteristics would describe you best? Ask your friends, partner and family members what they love most about your personality. This will not just be valuable for your self-confidence, it will also show you what you are likely to dismiss about yourself. You might be surprised by what you find out. Often, how you see yourself is very different to how others see you.

The problem with talents and strengths is that they are so normal to you that you tend to dismiss them. You are so used to them that you take them for granted and don’t realize that they exist and that they are your biggest asset.

Try Using personality tests, Another good way to discover your unique talents is using a personality test. One that I can recommend is the Clifton Strength Finder which determines your top five dominant patterns. It gives you a detailed explanation of them and actionable advice about how to put them to use. The test has really opened my eyes and helped me understand my talents and myself a little better. You can buy the test as part of the book  Now, Discover Your Strengths or get it on its own.
However, don’t just use the test alone and do nothing with it. The result alone will have no impact on you or your strength development unless you use the answers as a starting point to get to know yourself better. The best would be going through the steps in the order described above. Start with self-analysis, then see if others confirm your view about yourself and lastly you can also see what personality tests reveal about you. From my experiences, this process will prove to be the most valuable one for finding your unique talents and strengths.  Good Luck !! You are Worth It..

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Stay Positive in A Negative World

If you haven’t noticed that we live in a negative world, you just haven’t been paying attention. Whether it’s social media, news outlets, movies or just mainstream society there are countless number of negative images displayed in the world today. These negative influences have been especially evident during the past couple of years with the […]

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