Are You Giving UP?!

I know times may be Hard for you, your family, loved ones, or just people in general. Don’t give up. Keep fighting for your Breath. Don’t give up! Don’t allow the Chaos of the Worldly Matters to consume your limited precious time here on Earth. Don’t give up on yourself. I send my Love to You ALL. May Peace Be With You!

It always seems impossible until it’s done. Nelson Mandela-

If you’re going through hell, keep going. Never, never, never give up. Winston Churchill

You’re going to find the people that make it work NEVER quit, quitting is NOT an option. Bob Proctor

Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently. Henry Ford

A winner is just a loser who tried one more time. George M. Moore Jr.

Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. Thomas Edison

I Pray LORD PLEASE HAVE MERCY. Listen, Share to Another & Don’t Give Up.May Peace Be With You. Bless XOXOXOX

 

 

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Does making phone calls give you anxiety?!

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Do you suffer from phone anxiety?!

Start by trying to Figure out what’s causing the fear of talking on the phone: Are you concerned about saying something embarrassing? Are you fearing rejection? What are your thoughts that are going through your head before making a phone call. What kinds of things are you telling yourself.

The Most important factor is getting to the root of the exact fear about making phone calls. Always Aiming for positive self-talk is a must, Afterwards try to understand what’s driving your fear, try to change what you’re telling yourself about talking on the phone. Example: Think about times when you have made phone calls & didn’t say anything embarrassing or negative.  Now, self-talk by saying something like, “I have made several successful phone calls without embarrassing myself. I am capable of having a successful phone conversation.”

Chronic fears of making telephone calls may be an indicator of a deeper issues, such as social anxiety. A great tip, Try seeing an experienced anxiety therapist, to identify any issues to develop some skills to overcome it. There are treatments for social anxiety. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) techniques, exposure therapy, & social skills training, these type of techniques may be a great help for you to identify anxious thought patterns.

Try to face your fears. Try to develop strategies for managing social situations. Managing your phone calls daily, try to decide when you want to make your calls. Spread out your calls or make them all in one day,  whatever works best for you. Limit yourself to one or two calls per day can help with pressure of making phone calls. Determine the best time of day for your phone calls & only try to make phone calls when you feel at your best, feeling confident makes a difference. Consider the purpose of your call, prepare so that you’re able to accomplish the goal. If you need to make a call to find out information, make a list of questions. If you need to communicate important info to a friend, coworker, family member, write down what you need to communicate.

Try screening calls. Answer calls from people in your contact list, or just allow calls to go to voicemail, then you can think exactly how you want to respond without the pressure.

Remember to always toTake a deep breath & Relax.

Good Luck!

 

 

It is Okay to say “NO” ?!

 

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It’s okay to say no, there are many reasons why we should say no sometimes, and there are just as many reasons why we don’t – and suffer for not doing. Please try to  Understand that “no” isn’t cruel. By itself, saying no isn’t rude, mean, or uncaring.

When saying No, Excuse yourself plainly. The most basic way of saying no without ruining anyone else’s day is to clearly and plainly say “no,” followed by a brief, reason why you said no. Honestly there’s no need to lie or make up an excuse if you don’t feel yours is good enough – remember, everyone has felt the same way you do when expressing yourself to say no. If you just don’t feel like granting a request, that’s all the excuse you need. No specific, concrete, or logical reason is required.

Handle problem requests with bluntness. Saying “No”Be firm, not defensive, be polite. This gives the signal that you are sympathetic, but will not easily change your mind if pressured.

Always Be clear. If you decide to tell the person you’ll get back to them, be matter-of-fact and not too promising. If you lead people to believe you’ll likely say “yes” later, they’ll be more disappointed with a later “no.

 Saying No, No excuses are necessary. If asked for an explanation, remember that you really don’t owe anyone one. “It doesn’t fit with my schedule,” is perfectly acceptable, Or If you don’t want to do it, don’t do it. And if your friends, Family, etc,  force you to do things you are not comfortable with, question your friendship, situation, etc.

Be Free. Set boundaries. Love yourself.

Tips for Coming Out as lesbian, gay, bisexual

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Tips for Coming Out as lesbian, gay, bisexual

Don’t feel pressured.

 Don’t label yourself if you don’t want to.

 You don’t have to choose between your faith and your sexuality.

Most religions have groups for their lesbian, gay and bisexual followers. Go online to find a group near you.  Read how other people came out.

 Tell one person.

Forget the stereotypes.

 You’ll be protected at school, college and university.

 Think about the positives.

 Some people do have negative experiences.

Give people time.

 Start living! You will be amazed at how free you will feel once you have come out.

Consider the timing. Determine whether this is the right time. Be in a good place in your life. Be realistic and anticipate what their reactions will be. Arm yourself with answers ahead of time. Be ready for the “hellfire and damnation” argument. Stay calm, even if your parents aren’t. Their approval or permission is not required. Know when and how to make your exit. In the end, know that they love you.

Healing Emotional/Rejection Pain?!

We can try Healing Emotional Pain by letting go of rejection, rejection activates the same pathways in your brain as physical pain, which is a reason why it hurts. If we avoid ruminating, we can start turning failure Into Something Positive. Especially if We can make sure our Guilt remains as useful Emotions. If you have low self esteem be sure to use Self-Affirmations A lot. Healing Emotional Pain takes time. Rejection plays with your need to belong, it is distressing, it interferes with your ability to think, memories and making decisions. The sooner you let go of painful rejections, the better off your mind will be. Ruminate, or brood, over past hurts, the memories you replay in your mind become increasingly distressing and cause Anger, without providing any new insights.

In other words, while reflecting on a painful event, it actually can help you to reach an understanding or closure about it. Ruminating simply increases your stress levels, and can actually be addictive, ruminating on stressful incidents can also increase your levels of C-reactive protein, a marker of inflammation in the body linking to diseases.

Turn Failure Into Positive. Don’t Allow yourself to feel helpless after a failure, or blame it on your lack of ability or bad luck, it’s likely to lower your self-esteem. Blaming a failure on specific factors within your control, such as planning and execution, is likely to be less damaging. What’s even better is,  focusing on ways you can improve, Work on  being better  Informed or Prepared so you can succeed next time.

Use Guilt as a Useful Emotion, Guilt can be beneficial, it can stop you from doing something that may harm another person. Guilt that lingers or is excessive,  can impair your ability to focus & hinder you from enjoying Life.
If you still feel guilty after apologizing for a wrongdoing, be sure you have expressed empathy toward them and conveyed that you understand how your actions impacted them. This will lead to authentic forgiveness, relief of guilty feelings.

Self Positive affirmations are excellent tools for emotional health, if they fall outside the boundaries of your beliefs, they may be ineffective. This may be the case for people with low self-esteem, for whom self-affirmations may be more useful. Self-affirmations, such as “I have a great work ethic, I am a Hard worker,” can help your positive qualities you believe you have. Make a list of your Best Qualities. Healing emotional/rejection Pain. May Peace be with you.

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