“It’s the most wonderful time of the year….” That song just keeps going through my head as I type this. For me, this IS the most wonderful time of the year. I love all the bright lights, good food, and the way that for the most part, people just seem to be a little nicer […]
Personality disorders are psychological conditions that are characterized by a pattern of long term behavior that deviates from societal expectations, and create serious problems in relationships and society. People with personality disorders tend to be inflexible, rigid and manipulative. Although most feel that their behaviors are justified and perfectly fine, they often have a tunnel-vision view of the world and have problems connecting with others in socially acceptable ways.
Personality disorders, Odd or eccentric disorders, Paranoid personality disorder Characterized by suspiciousness and a deep mistrust of people, paranoid personalities often think of others as manipulative, cunning or dishonest. This kind of a person may appear guarded, secretive, and excessively critical.
Schizoid personality disorder, People with schizoid personalities are emotionally distant and tend to prefer to be alone. They are generally immersed in their own thoughts and have little interest in bonding and intimacy with others. Schizotypal personality disorder is characterized by odd and unusual “magical” beliefs. These individuals may have an eccentric way of behaving or dressing. They also tend to display outlandish beliefs such as believing that they can see the future or travel to other dimensions. People with this condition often have difficulty connecting with others and establishing long term relationships. Overtime, they may develop a fear of social gatherings.
Dramatic, emotional or erratic disorders. Antisocial/psychopath personality disorder.
Individuals with this disorder are known to be manipulative, irresponsible, and have a history of legal difficulties. They show little respect for the rights of others and feel no remorse for their actions. They also leave a trail of unfulfilled promises and broken hearts. Antisocial personalities are also at high risk for drug abuse, alcoholism; meth) since many are “rush” seekers. While they seldom suffer from depression or anxiety, they often use drugs to relieve boredom and irritability.
Borderline personality disorder are impulsive and have extreme views of people as either “all good” or “bad”. These people are unstable in relationships and have a strong fear of abandonment. They may form an intense personal attachment with someone they barely know and end it without no apparent reason. They might also engage in a “pull” and “push” behavior that usually ends with their partner leaving permanently. Self-mutilation, suicidal gestures or attention-seeking destructive behaviors are not uncommon. Borderline personalities are three times more likely to be female.
Histrionic personality disorder, People with this condition engage in persistent attention-seeking behaviors that include inappropriate sexual behavior and exaggerated emotions. They can be oversensitive about themselves and constantly seek reassurance or approval from others. Excessive need to be the center of attention, low tolerance for frustration, blaming others for failures are also characteristics of the histrionic personality.
Narcissistic personality disorder, Narcissistic personalities have a blown up perception of themselves and an excessive desire for attention and admiration. Individuals with this disorder have a false sense of entitlement and little respect for other people’s feelings. They are oversensitive to criticism and often blame others for their failures.
Prone to outbursts of anger and irritability, the narcissistic personality tends to be manipulative in interpersonal relationships. But deep beneath the surface lies a vulnerable self-esteem, susceptible to depression and feelings of inferiority.
Anxious or fearful disorders, Avoidant personality disorder
This disorder is described by chronic social withdrawal, feelings of inferiority, over-sensitivity and social withdrawal. People with avoidant personality disorder are constantly fearful of rejection and ridicule. They form relationships only with people that they trust. The pain of rejection is so strong that these individuals prefer to isolate rather than risk disappointment.
Dependent personality disorder Individuals with this condition have an abnormal desire to be nurtured that leads to submissive and clinging behavior. Dependent personalities have difficulty making their own decisions and seek others to take over most important areas in their lives. They will often go to great length to obtain nurturance from others, have separation anxiety when alone and desperately seek another partner when a close relationship ends.
Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD) Not to be confused with OCD. People with OCPD are perceived as strict and demanding by others. They have a persistent preoccupation with perfectionism, orderliness, and efficiency, at the expense of interpersonal relationships. They also show an excessive devotion to work, productivity and exhibit rigidness and stubbornness. People with OCPD usually have a negative view of life and often become withdrawn and depressed.
You’re afraid to tell people how you feel because it will destroy them. So you bury it deep inside where it destroys you. You are not Worthless. Share your story, Someone needs your story to create their Hope. Lets help one another, to Understand each other. Prayer & Communication are major keys to stepping forward on building Healthy Relationships. There is no right or wrong. No one is perfect. Good Luck! Cheers to Self Care, Love, Forgiveness. Walk your Journey in search of Support. Someone will care to understand. Eventually. Do not Give up!
“The thing that you think makes your anger “righteous” is the very thing you are called to forgive.” ~ Brant Hansen, Unoffendable
Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. Proverbs 18:21
Whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.. Phil 4:8
And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith. Matt 21:22
So shall my word be that goes out from my mouth; it shall not return to me empty, but it shall accomplish that which I purpose, and shall succeed in the thing for which I sent it. Isaiah 55:11
Truly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and thrown into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says will come to pass, it will be done for him. Mark 11:23
But he answered, “It is written, “‘Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.’” Matt 4:4
BONUS: For “Whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit; 1 Peter 3:10
The thing is, God gives us rules to live by and clear instructions on how to have a fulfilled life. So many times we (I’ve done it too) pick & choose what we want to follow out of the bible. We pick the scripture that benefits us at the time we need it the most.
I believe we all want a good life, whatever good means to you. Unfortunately, our words don’t reflect that. If words have power, that means everything you say is shaping your life. You may not feel it or see it the minute you speak it, but those words are planting seeds.
Just look back on your life or even where you are now. Do you remember speaking certain things about what you want or don’t want to happen and now you are living it?
Because words have power, we clearly have to be intentional with what we speak.
Tip: Only focus on the things you want/desire. Give no energy to the things you do not want. Watch how things start to shift.
SPEAK YOUR LIFE INTO LIVING THE LIFE YOU DESIRE.
by Daniella Levy It hurts to hear people say negative things about something you poured your heart and soul into. It hurts to recognize that you are not perfect at what you do and can always use improvement. However, criticism–good criticism–is a very powerful raw material you can use to build yourself as an artist. […]
Illusions, wrongly perceived or interpreted by the senses, deceptive appearance or impression. A false idea or belief. You cant keep hanging onto who or what has already left or what’s gone, and you cant keep waiting on who or what, that was never on their or its way. Let go of all Illusions. Let go. Move forward with your life, move on. Its never to late to start over, surround yourself with people who lift you up to a higher standard of living in reality. Let go of all illusions in your life.
The Greatest Enemy of knowledge is not Ignorance, it is the illusion of Knowledge.
Your only Obligation in any Lifetime is to be True to Yourself.
All Human Unhappiness comes from not Facing Reality exactly as it is.
Got Goals ?! WHAT IT TAKES ?
It is very important to have Smart GOALS, when it comes to change & improving yourself.
Your goals must be SPECIFIC: I will do “A” in the situation “B” and observe the following “C” changes.
Your goals must be MESAURABLE: You and others must be able to see the progress you are making on a regular basis.
Your goals must be ACHIEVABLE: They must be well within your capability to perform.
Your goals must be RELEVANT: This means that they must be something that you and others really want to have happen.
Your goals must be TIME-LIMITED: You need to have both short-term and long-term benefits in sight.
Make sure to Conduct an analysis of what potential obstacles might get in the way and create a game plan of how to anticipate & address obstacles, just in case.
Make sure to always Reward yourself, build in some payoffs for your small steps and the progress you have made. Always remember to put negative self blaming aside from your train of thoughts.
Making conversations with kids can be awkward but absolutely lovely, and A Hilariously fun thing to do. Make conversations with Kids. Talking to kids nowadays can be very hard. Especially if you do not have children of your own. A great start, Be available to make conversation with them. Kids don’t usually make plans to have conversations with us Adults, We have to be available to them in order to stimulate conversation with the child. If we’re with them, we’re bound to hear what they have to say. Children are very immediate, when it comes to their feelings & emotions, When a child wants to talk, make yourself available. Create space to have conversations with them, prepare yourself. Resist the urge to correct the child in the conversation, if a child is telling you something inaccurate, ask the child what does he or she thinks happened, so that way, they can express their thoughts. Draw out their curiosity, rather then forcing on them, an accurate explanation. You can fact check afterwards, also be interested and into what their into, their likes and dislikes. Watch something together with the child, and ask open ended questions, relating to kids nowadays is a challenge, these few techniques can apply to help engage a conversation with 4-15 year olds. Especially for Adults who have no clue or possibly no children and not one solid idea on how to have a Kid conversation. Have fun, Kids are awesome!