Try Healing your Childhood Sexual Abuse

Healing childhood sexual abuse or being sexually assaulted can be shattering, leaving you feeling scared, ashamed, and alone or plagued by nightmares, flashbacks, and unpleasant memories. But no matter how bad you feel, it’s important to remember that you weren’t to blame for what happened and you can regain your sense of safety and trust. Recovering from sexual trauma takes time, and the healing process can be painful. But with the right strategies and support, you can move past the trauma, rebuild your sense of control and self-worth, and even come out the other side feeling stronger and more resilient.

Trust –
The inner you that went into hiding, as a child, needs to know the “adult” you is safe. To build trust, treat the wounded “you” the way you would have liked to have been treated when you were little.

Validate – 
Validate you by acknowledging that the sexual abuse you were subjected to (or any abuse) wounded you, clear to the depths of your soul. Your response to being wounded was completely normal under abnormal circumstances.

Be angry – 
It’s okay to be angry. In fact, it’s better than okay. Be enraged at the injustice. You have to get angry before you can get well. Think of your anger as a healthy response. It is.

Grieve – 
Mourn your betrayal, mourn what ‘might have been,’ what your family could have looked like, what a carefree childhood should have felt like. Grieve your loss. People who bury their grief stay stuck in it.

Allow sorrow –
Feel sadness for your inner child’s pain. It was so lonely – this feeling that there was something, somehow, wrong with you.

Face forward – 
Acknowledge your history – but do not let it define you. Believe you are strong enough. You are – you survived. You are stronger than you think.

I am who I am today because of my history. I didn’t choose my mom and dad, I was born to them. I would be a different individual — not better, not worse — just different, had I had another set of parents. What I know is that because I experienced what I did, I understand the heart of another in the way only those who share a history of childhood abuse can. In this I am certain: if I can do it, so can you. Take care. You are always loved & supported.

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Let it Go !

Forgive yourself , let go of pain, make room for joy.   Holding on to the past can affect your overall health, release grudges and any negative feelings about yourself of others. Resentment affects your immune system.

Let it go, forgive others, forgive yourself.

Admit your resistance to forgiving, acknowledge how you feel. Know your role, get over betrayal, reflect on how you might have betrayed yourself. When you weren’t loving and respecting yourself or your own truth.  Write a letter to yourself or another person, to stop the blame game, this helps expressing negativity that may be in your soul about yourself or about another being. Even if you don’t give the letter to anyone. Say it aloud, tell yourself you have truly forgiven yourself or any others who may have wronged you. Seal the forgiveness and move forward. Start in your own heart, don’t overlook forgiving yourself.

TO HEAL A WOUND, STOP TOUCHING IT   !!!!!!!!!!!

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GOOD FRIDAY

Good Friday

HAPPY GOOD FRIDAY. I AM A CHRISTIAN IN GOOD FRIDAYS PROCESSION. THE HOLY WEEK. THE HOLY FRIDAY. THE GREAT FRIDAY. FRIDAY IN EASTER WEEK.

THINK OF EVERYTHNG YOUVE EVER EXPERIENCED THAT WAS PAINFUL; THATS THE MEANING OF GOOD FRIDAY.

THINK OF ALL THE WAYS THAT LOVE ULTIMATELY HEALED YOUR HEART; THATS THE MEANING OF EASTER.

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ACKNOWLEDGE HUMANITY’S SHAME, HUMANITY’S FAILINGS, HARDENED HEARTS WILL BECOME CAPABLE OF FORGIVING AND LOVING. IF YOUR RELIGION REQUIRES YOU TO HATE A GROUP OF PEOPLE BECAUSE OF THEIR BELIEFS, YOU NEED A NEW RELIGION.

“THE COUNTRY IS FOR ALL AND RELIGION FOR THE INDIVIDUAL” Haile Selassie.