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Philosophy is derived from two Greek words. Philo means lOVE, sophy means WISDOM. Philosophy means “love of wisdom”. Conscious of a set of beliefs, or personal philosophy informs how we live, work, & interact with others. What we believe is directly reflected into teaching and learning processes. It is important to understand how philosophy and education are interrelated. In order to become the most effective teacher you can be, you must understand your own beliefs, while at the same time empathizing with others. Developing our own educational philosophy is a key part of our journey to teach.
Major branches of philosophy are Metaphysics, epistemology, Axiology and logic. Metaphysics considers questions about the physical universe, & the nature of reality. Epistemology examines how people come to learn what they know. Axiology is the study of fundamental principles or values. Logic pursues the organization of the reasoning process. Logic can be divided into two components; deductive reasoning which takes general principles and relates them to a specific case; & inductive reasoning, which builds up an argument based on specific examples.
Idealism can be divided into three categories, classical, religious, & modern. Classical idealism the philosophy of the Greeks Socrates & Plato, searches for an absolute truth. Religious Idealism tries to reconcile God & Humanity.Modern Idealism stemming from the Ideas of Descartes, links pereption & existence.
Realism, school of thought founded by Aristotle, believes the world of matter is separate from human perceptions. Modern Realist thought has led to the blank slate, notion of human capabilities.
Pragmatism believes that we should select ideas, actions, & consequences with the most desirable outcome, as well as learning from the previous experiences to achieve desirable consequence.
Major philosophy of education can be broken down into three main: teacher-centered philosophies, Student-centered philosophies & society-centered philosophies. These include Essential-ism, Perennial-ism, Progressivism, social Reconstruction-ism, Existentialism, Behaviorism, Constructivism, Conservatism, & Humanism. Other Ideologies of educational philosophy include nationalism, American exceptionalism, ethno-nationalism, liberalism, conservatism, & Marxism.
It is important to identify your own philosophy of education in order to understand your own system of values & beliefs so that you are easily able to describe your teaching.
1. “I Love Myself for Who I Am.”
2. “I Am Strong and Capable.”
3. “How I Feel Matters.”
4. “I Allow Myself to Be in Only Healthy Relationships.”
5. “I Choose to Forgive and Let Go of Anger.”
6. “I Choose to Let Go of My Fear.”
7. “I Will Come Through This Challenge With a Better Understanding of Myself.”
8. “I Deserve Happiness.”
9. “I Take the Time to Care for My Body, Mind, and Spirit.”
Exercise, Eat healthy, Spend time doing things you enjoy, Get sleep, Take care of your Spirituality, Don’t trap yourself thinking you’re “too busy” to take care of yourself.
2 Peter 3 King James Version (KJV)
3 This second epistle, beloved, I now write unto you; in both which I stir up your pure minds by way of remembrance:
2 That ye may be mindful of the words which were spoken before by the holy prophets, and of the commandment of us the apostles of the Lord and Saviour:
3 Knowing this first, that there shall come in the last days scoffers, walking after their own lusts,
4 And saying, Where is the promise of his coming? for since the fathers fell asleep, all things continue as they were from the beginning of the creation.
5 For this they willingly are ignorant of, that by the word of God the heavens were of old, and the earth standing out of the water and in the water:
6 Whereby the world that then was, being overflowed with water, perished:
7 But the heavens and the earth, which are now, by the same word are kept in store, reserved unto fire against the day of judgment and perdition of ungodly men.
8 But, beloved, be not ignorant of this one thing, that one day is with the Lord as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day.
9 The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.
10 But the day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night; in the which the heavens shall pass away with a great noise, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat, the earth also and the works that are therein shall be burned up.
11 Seeing then that all these things shall be dissolved, what manner of persons ought ye to be in all holy conversation and godliness,
12 Looking for and hasting unto the coming of the day of God, wherein the heavens being on fire shall be dissolved, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat?
13 Nevertheless we, according to his promise, look for new heavens and a new earth, wherein dwelleth righteousness.
14 Wherefore, beloved, seeing that ye look for such things, be diligent that ye may be found of him in peace, without spot, and blameless.
15 And account that the longsuffering of our Lord is salvation; even as our beloved brother Paul also according to the wisdom given unto him hath written unto you;
16 As also in all his epistles, speaking in them of these things; in which are some things hard to be understood, which they that are unlearned and unstable wrest, as they do also the other scriptures, unto their own destruction.
17 Ye therefore, beloved, seeing ye know these things before, beware lest ye also, being led away with the error of the wicked, fall from your own stedfastness.
18 But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and for ever. Amen.
Problem with a service or place of business?
Trying to resolve a problem with a company?
The first thing should be to discuss the concerns with the business. Sometimes a phone call or email doesn’t resolve the problem, consider writing a effective complaint letter. Complaint letters are important. It puts the complaint on record, it preserves any legal rights you have in the situation, and lets the place of business know you’re serious about pursuing a complaint.
When writing an effective letter, Be clear, Describe the problem. If you’re following up on a complaint or general conversation with the company or person in charge, be sure to say who you spoke with and confirm the details.
Make sure to be clear on what you want rectified & include your request of a possible time frame. Do not write a threatening letter, it may be very helpful in resolving your dilemmas. Include all info & a copy of relevant documents regarding any specific matter. Keep your originals documents. Always send copies, Make sure to include your name & contacting information. You may want to send your letter by certified mail & request a return receipt. It assures you’ll have proof that the company got your letter & who signed for it. Short reminders on writing an effective complaint letter. Good Luck!
Understanding codependency, Your Self Awareness, Learning to Parent Yourself, Learning to Validate your emotions, trauma, whether you’re highly sensitive or overly emotional.
UNTANGLING YOURSELF-from Others, Owning the emotion & Getting to know yourself by Loving yourself with compassion. Codependents get themselves entangled in other people’s problems trying to fix, control, rescue, give advice, or force solutions on people who often don’t want or may need change. These behaviors, although meaning well, are frustrating for everyone involved. We get frustrated because we usually can’t affect change. Focusing on other people’s problems distracts us from owning our part in the problems & changing ourselves. These controlling & rescuing behaviors strain relationships. Loved ones resent our demanding & ultimatums. Our emotions may also be dependent on other people’s feelings. It might be that when your Other is in a good mood, you’re in a good mood and when they’re in a bad mood, you are in a bad mood. You may have difficulty recognizing your own feelings; you’ve become detached from yourself because you’re constantly concerned about how other people feel. We can untangle ourselves from others by learning to detach with love and stop enabling. Detaching is similar to setting healthy boundaries. Detaching puts healthy emotional, physical space between you & Others, so you & the Other have freedom to make your own choices, & have your own feelings. Detaching can include leaving uncomfortable, unsafe situations, saying “no”, or refraining yourself from giving advice.
Reflection: Do you enable, tangle yourself up in other people’s lives or problems? What boundaries will help you detach, prioritize your needs? How do you feel? .
OWNING YOUR PART- Denial is a self-protective measure that we use to deal with our overwhelming pain. Denial tries to shield us from our anger, despair, shame, it becomes a barrier to changing codependent patterns. We struggle to own our part in dysfunctional relationships, we tend to blame others. When we blame others, we act like victims, putting our happiness on whether other people will change. Gaining awareness means accepting responsibility, but not assuming responsibility for what other adults do. You aren’t responsible for others decisions. You are responsible for your happiness, health, which means you have choices and can take charge.
Reflection: If you’re having trouble seeing a situation objectively, do you have a trusted friend who can help see things from a different perspective? Do you blame others for your unhappiness? Can you empower yourself , solving your problems?
KNOWING YOURSELF– codependent families prevents us from developing a understanding of ourselves. Fear is used to force us to conform to family norms & we weren’t allowed or encouraged to explore our own interests, beliefs during childhood. We learn to suppress who we are to please others. In adulthood, we stay or focus on other people, that we really don’t know who we are, what we like, or what we want. We become defined by our roles, instead of the complex individuals that we are. Codependency recovering has to include getting to know ourselves.Getting to know ourselves isn’t selfish, its healthy & respect for ourselves. It means that we care about ourselves, we are curious about who we are.
Reflection: What do you like to do? How do you like to be treated? What are your goals? What do you believe?
LOVE YOURSELF– We do this through COMPASSION, accepting imperfections & mistakes, self care & Self-love, being kind to yourself, instead of being critical about your flaws. Self-love is your basic physical need, getting sleep, eating healthy food, exercise, taking medications your doctor has prescribed, setting boundaries, your opinions, asking for what you need, making time for fun, social connection. If you’re not used to taking care of yourself, it will feel uncomfortable for a while, but with each step of compassion, self-care, you are taking solid steps to love yourself.
Reflection: What is one thing you can do for your emotional health everyday? What is one thing you can do for your physical health everyday? What are you saying to yourself when you make mistakes? What can you tell yourself that would be understanding, supportive & compassionate?