1. “I Love Myself for Who I Am.”
2. “I Am Strong and Capable.”
3. “How I Feel Matters.”
4. “I Allow Myself to Be in Only Healthy Relationships.”
5. “I Choose to Forgive and Let Go of Anger.”
6. “I Choose to Let Go of My Fear.”
7. “I Will Come Through This Challenge With a Better Understanding of Myself.”
8. “I Deserve Happiness.”
9. “I Take the Time to Care for My Body, Mind, and Spirit.”
Exercise, Eat healthy, Spend time doing things you enjoy, Get sleep, Take care of your Spirituality, Don’t trap yourself thinking you’re “too busy” to take care of yourself.
Understanding codependency, Your Self Awareness, Learning to Parent Yourself, Learning to Validate your emotions, trauma, whether you’re highly sensitive or overly emotional.
UNTANGLING YOURSELF-from Others, Owning the emotion & Getting to know yourself by Loving yourself with compassion. Codependents get themselves entangled in other people’s problems trying to fix, control, rescue, give advice, or force solutions on people who often don’t want or may need change. These behaviors, although meaning well, are frustrating for everyone involved. We get frustrated because we usually can’t affect change. Focusing on other people’s problems distracts us from owning our part in the problems & changing ourselves. These controlling & rescuing behaviors strain relationships. Loved ones resent our demanding & ultimatums. Our emotions may also be dependent on other people’s feelings. It might be that when your Other is in a good mood, you’re in a good mood and when they’re in a bad mood, you are in a bad mood. You may have difficulty recognizing your own feelings; you’ve become detached from yourself because you’re constantly concerned about how other people feel. We can untangle ourselves from others by learning to detach with love and stop enabling. Detaching is similar to setting healthy boundaries. Detaching puts healthy emotional, physical space between you & Others, so you & the Other have freedom to make your own choices, & have your own feelings. Detaching can include leaving uncomfortable, unsafe situations, saying “no”, or refraining yourself from giving advice.
Reflection: Do you enable, tangle yourself up in other people’s lives or problems? What boundaries will help you detach, prioritize your needs? How do you feel? .
OWNING YOUR PART- Denial is a self-protective measure that we use to deal with our overwhelming pain. Denial tries to shield us from our anger, despair, shame, it becomes a barrier to changing codependent patterns. We struggle to own our part in dysfunctional relationships, we tend to blame others. When we blame others, we act like victims, putting our happiness on whether other people will change. Gaining awareness means accepting responsibility, but not assuming responsibility for what other adults do. You aren’t responsible for others decisions. You are responsible for your happiness, health, which means you have choices and can take charge.
Reflection: If you’re having trouble seeing a situation objectively, do you have a trusted friend who can help see things from a different perspective? Do you blame others for your unhappiness? Can you empower yourself , solving your problems?
KNOWING YOURSELF– codependent families prevents us from developing a understanding of ourselves. Fear is used to force us to conform to family norms & we weren’t allowed or encouraged to explore our own interests, beliefs during childhood. We learn to suppress who we are to please others. In adulthood, we stay or focus on other people, that we really don’t know who we are, what we like, or what we want. We become defined by our roles, instead of the complex individuals that we are. Codependency recovering has to include getting to know ourselves.Getting to know ourselves isn’t selfish, its healthy & respect for ourselves. It means that we care about ourselves, we are curious about who we are.
Reflection: What do you like to do? How do you like to be treated? What are your goals? What do you believe?
LOVE YOURSELF– We do this through COMPASSION, accepting imperfections & mistakes, self care & Self-love, being kind to yourself, instead of being critical about your flaws. Self-love is your basic physical need, getting sleep, eating healthy food, exercise, taking medications your doctor has prescribed, setting boundaries, your opinions, asking for what you need, making time for fun, social connection. If you’re not used to taking care of yourself, it will feel uncomfortable for a while, but with each step of compassion, self-care, you are taking solid steps to love yourself.
Reflection: What is one thing you can do for your emotional health everyday? What is one thing you can do for your physical health everyday? What are you saying to yourself when you make mistakes? What can you tell yourself that would be understanding, supportive & compassionate?
Concentration meditation Our consciousness focus on a object or subject and breathing deeply, this helps form mental acuity, focus, and application. It helps in overcoming distraction & will build patience.
Open awareness Meditation encourages us to observe, be present in the consciousness at the moment, resting in awareness without boundary or guidance.
Open-awareness meditation is the metaphor of the mind being an open sky.
Mindfulness Meditation is about focus but to remain aware, aware of sensory & perception, as well as emotion & thought, accepting of our entire experience.
Sit or lie comfortably on a chair, cushion, Playlist calming sounds, music or silence, etc
Close your eyes
Simply breathe naturally.
Be clear on your motivation for meditating
Take it one day at a time
Stay mindful after meditations on daily basis
Meditation is a journey of a lifetime, be confident about what you’re doing & explore your different areas and emotions of life.
All meditations are simply different, Its Fascinating to explore these ancient practices, it’s worth pursuing.
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Tips for Coming Out as lesbian, gay, bisexual
Don’t feel pressured.
Don’t label yourself if you don’t want to.
You don’t have to choose between your faith and your sexuality.
Most religions have groups for their lesbian, gay and bisexual followers. Go online to find a group near you. Read how other people came out.
Tell one person.
Forget the stereotypes.
You’ll be protected at school, college and university.
Think about the positives.
Some people do have negative experiences.
Give people time.
Start living! You will be amazed at how free you will feel once you have come out.
Consider the timing. Determine whether this is the right time. Be in a good place in your life. Be realistic and anticipate what their reactions will be. Arm yourself with answers ahead of time. Be ready for the “hellfire and damnation” argument. Stay calm, even if your parents aren’t. Their approval or permission is not required. Know when and how to make your exit. In the end, know that they love you.