Written by Dr. Perry, PhD Image Credit: Pixabay “People inspire you or they drain you. Pick them wisely.” ~Hans F. Hansen We all know at least one person who seems to walk around in a state of doom and gloom. They are in short supply of joy but have an overabundance of negativity. This individual may […]
Objective: Travelling with Social Anxiety You scroll down your Instagram feed and watch people travelling to every corner of the world. Looking anxiously at your screen you might think “Damn If it wasn’t for my anxiety, I’d travel all the time”. Well, today is your lucky day. I will tell you how to travel the […]
Shhhhew weee! This Chapter shouted HUMILITY to this soul! Babylon was undefeated and confident! Their power did not come from the Lord. They were “popular”. I imagine even a little arrogant! They had the cat by the tail and they were successful in their own way. Well… The Lord has spoken and He did […]
via Isaiah 47 — WAGS
Feeling angry, resentful about things that happened or didn’t happen?!
Resentment is like a cancer. Tips to reduce resentments to live a happier life. Think loving positive thoughts for your personal resentment. The opposite of anger, hate, fear? is love. By sending LOVE towards others. Praying that they receive all the wonderful things you want for yourself in life, you slowly turn away at negative emotions that do you harm. Try and work at it.
Believe in prayer, set aside time during the day to think loving thoughts. Wishing others good fortune and blessings. Say it out loud. GOD please give love, health and peace to others and myself to let any resentment go.
At first it will likely feel awkward and meaningless, difficult. It could take weeks, months, or even years, but eventually you’ll notice where there were once ill feelings. But now there is peace, love and that you start to actually mean it.
Check your motives and expectations, the best way to eliminate resentment is, not to set yourself up for it. For example, think about when people ask you to do things for them. You probably form expectations about what they’ll do for you in return. If there’s a hint of what’s in it for me, chances are you’re headed for some resentment. Be Grateful. A heart that is full of gratitude has little room for resentment. Whenever I’m feeling stressed, resentful, or angry, I put my pen to paper and write down things I’m grateful for in that moment.
It’s difficult to resent what you don’t have when you’re focusing your energy on what you do have. Stay open to different outcomes.
The key to finding happiness is realizing that you already possess everything you need to be happy. When you realize happiness is an inside job, you’re less likely to place demands on other people and situations.
Reducing resentment takes practice and mindfulness. Being mindful, I recognized this and removed myself from unhealthy situations.
I asked for acceptance, guidance. Years from now, what will I remember the most.
We all have the ability to manage expectations, change our state of mind, and ultimately be happy regardless of how we expect things will unfold. Don’t let your demons introduce you to hell, Introduce your demons to Heaven. May peace be with you!
We can try Healing Emotional Pain by letting go of rejection, rejection activates the same pathways in your brain as physical pain, which is a reason why it hurts. If we avoid ruminating, we can start turning failure Into Something Positive. Especially if We can make sure our Guilt remains as useful Emotions. If you have low self esteem be sure to use Self-Affirmations A lot. Healing Emotional Pain takes time. Rejection plays with your need to belong, it is distressing, it interferes with your ability to think, memories and making decisions. The sooner you let go of painful rejections, the better off your mind will be. Ruminate, or brood, over past hurts, the memories you replay in your mind become increasingly distressing and cause Anger, without providing any new insights.
In other words, while reflecting on a painful event, it actually can help you to reach an understanding or closure about it. Ruminating simply increases your stress levels, and can actually be addictive, ruminating on stressful incidents can also increase your levels of C-reactive protein, a marker of inflammation in the body linking to diseases.
Turn Failure Into Positive. Don’t Allow yourself to feel helpless after a failure, or blame it on your lack of ability or bad luck, it’s likely to lower your self-esteem. Blaming a failure on specific factors within your control, such as planning and execution, is likely to be less damaging. What’s even better is, focusing on ways you can improve, Work on being better Informed or Prepared so you can succeed next time.
Use Guilt as a Useful Emotion, Guilt can be beneficial, it can stop you from doing something that may harm another person. Guilt that lingers or is excessive, can impair your ability to focus & hinder you from enjoying Life.
If you still feel guilty after apologizing for a wrongdoing, be sure you have expressed empathy toward them and conveyed that you understand how your actions impacted them. This will lead to authentic forgiveness, relief of guilty feelings.
Self Positive affirmations are excellent tools for emotional health, if they fall outside the boundaries of your beliefs, they may be ineffective. This may be the case for people with low self-esteem, for whom self-affirmations may be more useful. Self-affirmations, such as “I have a great work ethic, I am a Hard worker,” can help your positive qualities you believe you have. Make a list of your Best Qualities. Healing emotional/rejection Pain. May Peace be with you.
Every winter the way we may feel, seasonal affective disorder or SAD. During winter months with less sunlight in addition to a depressed mood, sad, includes cravings for carbs, inability to concentrate, irritability, weight gain etc. Sunlight stops melatonin production in the body, and darkness starts it.
Sunlight is usually missing in the winter months, when light is absent, the pineal gland activates two of its natural enzymes to turn the hormone serotonin into melatonin. Serotonin keeps us from being depressed, stops craving sweets & carbs. when melatonin kicks in, normal serotonin activities are reversed, the pineal gland gets insufficient sunlight.
Dietary Remedies: Apricots,apples, pears, grapes, plums, grapefruits, oranges , Avocados, Brown Rice, dates, bananas, papayas, plantains, pineapple, tomatoes, cottage cheese, turkey, fish ,eggs, ice, shellfish.
Herbal: Teas Chamomile, peppermint, cinnamon
Lifestyle Remedies: Curtains Open, Exercise in the Sun outside or near a sunny window, walking, aerobics, swimming, biking, light therapy, vacation in sunny climate during winter months
Do you like yourself? Like yourself; You should like yourself; If you like yourself, You will be kind to yourself; You will do your best For yourself; If you don’t like yourself, You will neglect yourself; Instead of caring for yourself; Like yourself; No reason not to like yourself; You are a likable person; Others […]
If you have Faith in Him, you will have True Life” JOHN 20:30-31.
I am The Bread that Gives Life! JOHN 6:47-51
I am The Light for the World! JOHN 8:12
I am The Gate for the Sheep. JOHN 10:7-10
I am The Good Shepherd. JOHN 10:11-16
I am The One Who Raises the Dead to Life! JOHN 11:25-27
I am The Way, The Truth, and The Life! JOHN 14:6
I am The Vine. JOHN 15:5-7
Why are people mean to nice people? Short answer, They’re hurt! Long answer, They’re really hurt! Some point, somebody, their parents, their lovers, a close one, did them dirty & hurt them, they were crushed & they’re still afraid the pain will never stop, or that it will happen again. Some people you can be nice and sincere too, some people who may perceive you as a possible threat, you will have to deal with them accordingly. Basically, you will have to keep them within arm’s length but not within your personal space. People who are bad and mean to the nice ones, are those who are generally weak and try to prove they’re not by displaying a hostile attitude. Sometimes they do it because they’re resentful for being treated that way at some point of their lives. The fact is that we’ve all been hurt, and we’re all wounded, but not all of us are mean. We have both the capacity and the obligation to do better. How people treat other people is a reflection of how they may truly feel about themselves.
By nature, I am a happy, optimistic, idealistic person. I have always been one to look on the bright side and see the good in people. My thoughts about life is that the world is full of brightness, love, and possibilities to seize. Recently, though, my thoughts began to fade in the face of a mild depression. I began to cry a lot and retreat into myself rather than being social and opening up, which only furthered the problem. I felt alone, miserable, and, try as I might, I could not regain that feeling of the world being beautiful.
I felt like something had crawled into my mind and turned all the positive switches off and the negative ones on. I felt hopeless, like it was more of a disease than a feeling.
Before the depression, I was a kind, gentle, and compassionate person. Sometimes I was even too gentle, afraid to bring up anything that might offend someone else or damage our relationship.
I didn’t understand how other people could be mean, rude, or offensive toward strangers or friends. I took it personally when people were rude with me, believing they were truly out to get me for something I’d done. When someone is rude for no reason, especially a stranger, it’s rarely a personal assault, even if you accidentally did something to irritate them. People aren’t mean for the sport of it, or because they are against you; people are mean to cope. I felt unlovable, undesirable, antisocial, and I needed a way to cope with these feelings by giving myself an alter ego that deserved to be disliked for reasons I could understand. When you find that people are being rude to you in your everyday life, they are really being mean to themselves. They have likely convinced themselves that they are unworthy of love, and that is the biggest tragedy of all. You can simply recognize that the person being rude is struggling with their own problems, and needs a way to cope with them. You cannot control the actions and behaviors of others, only your personal reactions to them. If you yourself are the one who has been unkind, it is time for self-reflection.
Why do you attack people?
What are you trying to protect yourself from?
Should I change my outlook, so I pushed myself to see the good in myself and the reasons why I’m likable; as a result, I began to see the good in others again too. It’s not an easy process, and for many, it requires therapy and months of time. However, you can begin your journey back to kindness by being kinder to yourself. Listen closely to your destructive, self-critical thoughts.
Are they based in reality, or are you fabricating them?
If you criticize yourself because you feel guilty about things you did in the past, work on nurturing self-forgiveness, just as you’d forgive a loved one for those same mistakes.
If you criticize yourself because you were raised to believe you were a bad person, recognize this isn’t true, and know that you can choose to heal and challenge this belief as an adult. Try to look at yourself from an outside perspective and remind yourself of all the unique and beautiful qualities you possess and have the ability to share with the world. With enough time and effort, you will begin to see the pattern in your unkind behavior and its link to your own anger at yourself. The most important thing to remember, whether you are receiving or giving unkindness, is that you are inherently good, too, and deserve to be loved. Bless.