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Do you want a secret path to a successful life?
However, the easiest and most rewarding path to success is looking within. Discovering what you have to offer to the world that nobody else can. Finding your own unique talents and sharing them in a meaningful way, the importance of finding your true talents.
Why you need to find your talents and strengths
Most people never find their natural talents and strengths – either because they do not believe they have any or because they underestimate their importance. If you want to be successful, discovering your uniqueness, it’s a necessity.
Two examples show you why:
Your biggest room for growth lies within your talents
In today’s society is that, the key to success is fixing your weakness. People tend to think that working on what you are not good at is the fastest way to grow and develop. That’s far from the truth. Of course, you can get better at anything. Working on your weakness can help you go from bad to mediocre. But you will never be able to achieve true excellence without an underlying talent.
The first step to embrace your uniqueness is being aware that you are special. You are like nobody else in this world. Nobody else has had the same experiences as you. No one has exactly the same characteristics and shares the same values. Nobody has learned all the various skills you learned. Discovering your talents and strengths means becoming more aware of who you really are. Because only when you know, what makes you so unique, you can fully embrace and make use of it.
what exactly is a talent?
A talent is simply a strong characteristic that you have. It’s something you naturally do, think, or feel and that can be used in a beneficial way. It is nothing you acquired in school, that was taught to you at university. A talent is just a natural pattern of thought, feeling, or behavior.
Psychologists say that 90% of what you think every day is repetitive*. Meaning most of what you think today, you already thought yesterday, and 90% of these thoughts you also thought the day before … Not only are your thoughts the results of underlying patterns but also your behavior and feelings. Finding your talents is simply about discovering these most prominent patterns within you and then using it to your advantage.
Identifying your unique talents, set yourself up for success and capitalize on the way you are, identify your unique characteristics. This is a process that takes quite some time but that is definitely worth doing!
First Find what makes you feel strong. Keep track of how you spend the next few days: What are you doing, feeling or thinking about daily? Write down everything that energizes you and makes you feel strong. It could be a particular physical activity such as meeting up and going dancing with a friend or a mental activity such as finding a solution to a difficult problem. Then when you’ve found a few things you repeatedly do and love, dig deeper and see what part of that particular activity made you feel good.
Example, one of my patterns is that I love learning, sharing my ideas with you. That statement in itself is not quite true: I don’t like learning about everything. Give me books about personal development and I am occupied for hours feeling energized and in flow. Give me almost anything else and I am bored to hell.
I like sharing what I learn but if you make me talk about it in front of a crowd, I will not do it. However, sit down with me alone and I will happily talk with you for hours. These are distinct differences that are vital to know in order to make the most of my talent.
Look out for your own patterns: what are you always doing or thinking about? What can you just not help doing, thinking or feeling? Even if someone asks you not to? Often these are things that others can find quite annoying about you .Discover what you spend your money on. Your core values are closely linked with what you spend your money and time on. Take note of what you spend your money on and look closer at what this can tell you about yourself. Example, I spend my money on books,magazines, self-help conferences. The types of magazines I buy show me what I am passionate about mainly personal development & entrepreneurship. But what’s behind it is my desire to learn and grow. That is a strong natural characteristic of mine, a talent that drives everything I do, how I think and how I spend my time. If you like spending money on going out with friends, is it that you like bringing people together?
Is it that you like getting attention and expressing yourself? Or maybe is it because you value deepening your pre-existing friendships? Why do you do what you do? What is behind it? The key is to keep digging deeper in order to get to the core essence of your talent patterns. Most people, including myself in the past, make the terrible mistake of being too fast and not taking enough time to truly discover themselves.
Identifying what makes you truly unique and what drives you, is not a 1-minute exercise. Its a everyday battle with yourself about who you are and who you want to be.
Asking others?! Find out what others value most about you. What personal characteristics would describe you best? Ask your friends, partner and family members what they love most about your personality. This will not just be valuable for your self-confidence, it will also show you what you are likely to dismiss about yourself. You might be surprised by what you find out. Often, how you see yourself is very different to how others see you.
The problem with talents and strengths is that they are so normal to you that you tend to dismiss them. You are so used to them that you take them for granted and don’t realize that they exist and that they are your biggest asset.
Try Using personality tests, Another good way to discover your unique talents is using a personality test. One that I can recommend is the Clifton Strength Finder which determines your top five dominant patterns. It gives you a detailed explanation of them and actionable advice about how to put them to use. The test has really opened my eyes and helped me understand my talents and myself a little better. You can buy the test as part of the book Now, Discover Your Strengths or get it on its own.
However, don’t just use the test alone and do nothing with it. The result alone will have no impact on you or your strength development unless you use the answers as a starting point to get to know yourself better. The best would be going through the steps in the order described above. Start with self-analysis, then see if others confirm your view about yourself and lastly you can also see what personality tests reveal about you. From my experiences, this process will prove to be the most valuable one for finding your unique talents and strengths. Good Luck !! You are Worth It..
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BECOME YOURSELF?! Establish healthy habits at home & work to change your life. Its time to place a high priority on living healthy, being meticulous about not wasting your precious time to invest in yourself. Discipline and Motivation is very easy to become lazy. So you will have to really ask yourself this VERY IMPORTANT question. Do You Want to BECOME YOURSELF? If the answer is Yes, then you have to make this your #1 priority. 1st step: Start with your alarm clock, Adjusting your wake & sleep times, your sleep quality will improve. Your work focus & energy will become positive and sharper. 2nd Step: Try something new, Fitness, exercise should not be boring or painful. If it is, you will end up disliking it and discouraged. Find something you like, for example, Even if it was something you have no clue about, like meditation, yoga, stretching or swimming etc. 3rd Step: Challenge yourself everyday. Accomplish something that your not sure about. You can challenge yourself at anything, like simple activity, to something that's impossible. For example Challenge yourself to writing down how or what you would like to do, short term, long term goals, in a self reflection diary. Stick to it everyday, commit yourself. Or challenge to cook for yourself, researching recipes and stick to it every week. Or last but not least challenge yourself to take hobbies class painting, poetry, something relaxing and self reflecting to make you feel good about yourself. Warning & Reminder : THIS IS ABOUT YOU, NOT ABOUT OTHERS, SO ALWAYS REMIND YOURSELF TO NOT GET DISTRACTED , YOU ARE IN A PHASE OF WORKING ON YOURSELF. SO TAKE THE TIME FOR YOURSELF. POLITELY LET OTHERS KNOW , THIS IS YOUR ME TIME & IF IT WERE POSSIBLE YOU WOULD HAVE TO PASS ON ANY INVITATIONS. FYI. DONT OBLIGATE YOURSELF TO RAINCHECKS & LATER DATES. IT WILL ONLY MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY OR OBLIGATED IF YOU WERE UNABLE TO KEEP A PROMISE. THIS IS ABOUT YOU, & KEEPING YOUR MIND DECLUTTERED. GOOD LUCK ON YOUR "BECOMING YOURSELF JOURNEY" .
Have you been all work and no play recently?
Are you feeling that you are “stuck” in life somehow?
When was the last time you connected with your inner child?
You should Awake your childlike side Immediately , Get out there and enjoy yourself!
Life is for living. Not for enduring. Perhaps you will play more with your own children or grandchildren. Or, you may simply enjoy having fun with another adult or beginning a new job or vocation that relates to helping young people.
What You Should Do:
It’s time to connect with your inner child. Can you find them inside you?
Or, have you forgotten who they are? Plan some time for you to explore what it feels like to be carefree and to enjoy life to the full again. Go to the beach and build a sandcastle. Take your dog for that long walk you’re always too busy for. Find time to enjoy the world around you. Your inner child will thank you for it!
“I love and honour my inner child. I feel whole and joyous!”
Making conversations with kids can be awkward but absolutely lovely, and A Hilariously fun thing to do. Make conversations with Kids. Talking to kids nowadays can be very hard. Especially if you do not have children of your own. A great start, Be available to make conversation with them. Kids don’t usually make plans to have conversations with us Adults, We have to be available to them in order to stimulate conversation with the child. If we’re with them, we’re bound to hear what they have to say. Children are very immediate, when it comes to their feelings & emotions, When a child wants to talk, make yourself available. Create space to have conversations with them, prepare yourself. Resist the urge to correct the child in the conversation, if a child is telling you something inaccurate, ask the child what does he or she thinks happened, so that way, they can express their thoughts. Draw out their curiosity, rather then forcing on them, an accurate explanation. You can fact check afterwards, also be interested and into what their into, their likes and dislikes. Watch something together with the child, and ask open ended questions, relating to kids nowadays is a challenge, these few techniques can apply to help engage a conversation with 4-15 year olds. Especially for Adults who have no clue or possibly no children and not one solid idea on how to have a Kid conversation. Have fun, Kids are awesome!